Holding Space

Holding space is a compassionate practice of creating a safe and open environment for someone who needs to be heard or held. It involves offering non-judgmental support without attempting to fix the person or provide advice. The focus is on being fully present and allowing the individual to express themselves and process their feelings. 

Over time, I've learned that giving someone the opportunity to articulate their emotions and allowing them to process their thoughts is often all they need. People usually hold the answers within themselves, and sharing their feelings can help release their inner thoughts just like turning on a faucet. It's important not to center their experience around ourselves by offering solutions or sharing our own stories.

When holding space within a group setting, it's remarkable how magic unfolds. The act of sharing and listening creates a powerful synergy, and collective insights emerge. By simply being present and offering a loving connection without the need to take charge or solve problems, we can nurture a profound sense of togetherness and support within the group.

Some of the most meaningful growth I've experienced has come from being present with others and holding space for them. It has taught me the value of exercising restraint and the transformative power of simply being there for someone.

So, what does it look like to hold space for someone? It means allowing them to fully experience and express all their emotions, acknowledging that every feeling is valid and part of the human experience.

Preparing to hold space involves cultivating certain qualities and skills. Practicing mindfulness is a great way to start, as it helps in being fully present and empathetic. Learning to detach from our own egos is crucial, enabling us to listen to someone's story without passing judgment. Embracing the concept of unconditional love—love that remains steadfast regardless of the circumstances—is important in creating a safe, accepting space for others. It's also essential to learn to accept a person's thoughts and words without imposing our own judgments.

A practical way to begin is by holding space for oneself. By either journaling or recording our thoughts and feelings without self-criticism, we can practice creating a safe space for self-reflection and healing. It's crucial to prioritize self-love and provide ourselves with the opportunity to process and heal.

Holding space is a powerful and transformative practice that fosters deep human connection and promotes healing. By cultivating qualities of empathy, mindfulness, and unconditional love, we can create a nurturing environment for others and ourselves, allowing space for growth and emotional processing.

- Caridad Saenz